1) Wishing that something hadn’t happened, doesn’t make it go away. Even if I could change something bad that had happened, it would change everything else in between and I probably wouldn’t be where I am today.
2) If you want something done, do it yourself.
3) Again, in the end, you are the only one you can truly rely on. No matter where you go, and who you have as friends, you’re the only person who knows what you want and how badly you want it. This may seem lonely, but it is the first step to working towards goals. No one can achieve those for you.
4) A few good friends are worth a thousand acquaintances. I have the best few friends a girl could ask for. There really is nothing like a good support network to keep one’s head above the surface.
5) Never pretend to be someone you’re not. This is hard because a lot of us are not happy with something about ourselves, but in the end, living a lie is far worse than trying to get comfortable in your own skin.
6) Take your time. Just because the world exists in high-gear doesn’t mean that you have to. Pressure may be a good incentive for some things, but there are other things you can’t put a deadline on. Procrastination on the other hand, just shortens the amount of time you have to work in. This works for some people and overwhelms others.
7) Normal is something statistics made up. We are not all size twelve B average students with no job, a cell phone and an unhealthy addiction to Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Every single person has something unique about them. (otherwise the world would be so boring!!) So therefore, nobody is perfect.
8) Your health is something you should not ignore. If you do, by the time you do do something about it, it could be four times worse than when you first noticed a decline. (I had a cousin who put off going to a doctor for a pain in his back. When he finally did go, they discovered that it was cancer, and that it was wrapped around his spine and inoperable. If he had gone when he first felt the pain, he might still be alive today)
9) Follow your gut. First instinct is usually correct. Logic can sometimes get in the way.That isn’t to say that logic is a bad thing, just remember that nature has it’s own way of telling you what’s right and what isn’t. Some might call it a sixth sense, others intuition. Whatever it is, it’s not something one should ignore.
10) Everyone has ups and downs. Sometimes you just gotta be cranky. Sometimes you just gotta be bitchy, but if you have to be, try your damnedest not to take it out on your loved ones, or if you do, apologise. Ups and downs also have a cause and effect. Don’t forget these things, and think about why they are the things that trigger bad moods, or alleviate them. These can be keys to bigger issues you might have.
11) You take yourself with you. Depression is partially a state of mind, (as well as a chemical imbalance etc, I can agree with that) and you can’t escape your self, whether it be by moving to another city or reading too many books or playing computer games. You have to deal with it or you’re going to be stuck. (but: Don’t expect miracles to happen in a few days. Sometimes it takes years to get over things, and years more to understand them. )
12) Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. There is nothing more frightening than doing something for the first time. Feel the fear and do it anyway, as my mom says. I mean, how will you ever know anything if you never do anything that you’re apprehensive about, like date?\
13) You could fake, it, but then how will you ever be satisfied? This doesn’t just apply to sex, trust me.
Yes. I have learned these things, usually the hard way. I have them here to remind me that I am still working on these things, still learning. 14) The world just keeps on turning, wether you want it to, or not.